makers and takers

by Bea Larsen Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. Everyone I know yearns for the primary season to be over, but we have months to go. Outrageous statements are often followed by a pullback or a conditional apology, which typically begins with,…

the green book

by Bea Larsen Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. To encourage civility and eliminate hurtful discriminatory treatment of our fellow humans, use gentle persuasion to change hearts and minds? Or pass a law to compel behavior? A recent article in the Times…

unconscious bias

by Bea Larsen Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. Most of us are able to acknowledge we hold certain biases, beliefs based on our own life experience, or passed along to us by others, that we casually adopt without much question. New…

sponging

by Bea Larsen Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. He said: so, I hear you got the promotion. Another woman sleeps her way to the top. Silent at first, unnerved by the sarcastic taunt, she took a moment to consider her response…

mindful questions

by Bea Larsen Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. Talking with a close friend or colleague, conversation usually flows unguarded. The verbal interchange that carries us forward, asking questions, disclosing what is important about our lives, flows without risk of a misstep. …

on appreciation

Bea Larsen is a Senior Mediator at the Center for the Resolution of Disputes. She is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility. Our need to be understood and appreciated goes to our very core. Yet, when in conflict with another, our need to project strength, not weakness, may obscure the importance of this human condition. Consider…

the catharsis hypothesis

Bea Larsen is the Co-Founder of Beyond Civility and Senior Mediator, Center for the Resolution of Disputes. Do you subscribe to the belief that the expression of anger results in a healthy catharsis, helps to dissipate those roiled up feelings and even reduces blood pressure? Well, not so, according to two prominent social psychologists, Carol Tavris…